To everyone who has followed my blog thankyou for your support in 2007. Someone told me a while ago that 2007 was the year of clearing out – this is true in so many different ways for so many people I know. It certainly has been true for me and 2008 is bringing some massive changes in my life!

 This year has been one of the most challenging but also one full of new opportunities. I have had to dig deep and look well within myself and in doing so I have discovered what I truly want out of life. There is still plenty more to get to but my heart knows it’s on the right road.

 2008 promises to be a BIG year. I have a new set of goals to aim for and am excited by the prospect of what the year will bring. So no matter where you are right now, no matter how difficult or easy 2007 was for you set yourself some new goals for 2008…not resolutions but something you can make a sustained committment to.

 A fresh year brings with it fresh hope, new ideas and new beginnings. I wish you all a sensational 2008! And of course, if you need a Life Coach to help you through you can always contact me through www.yourfamilyvision.com 🙂

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There are times in life when your heart feels like it’s going to break. In fact some days the heartache is just too much to bear. Yet it is also when you look back at these times when you realise your inner strength. It is at these times when our true self shines through. It is at these times we need to conduct ourselves with grace, dignity and treat ourselves with care.

In those times of heartache it is so easy to get lost in the physical reality of hurt and pain and the emotional sensations that we feel. And as we go through it we might even wonder if this is the biggest test we’ll be put through.

 It is at these times when we need to focus on the bigger picture. We need to clarify the vision we have of what will happen once we get through all of this. Because when we feel the agony we live in minutes, we are fully present. We are meant to feel the full impact and range of emotions – that what is it to be human. But occassionally set aside a few minutes to dream and visualise life when you make it through the other side.

When you feel it is almost impossible let your friends in to give you love and support. And when you do get through fully experience the ecstasy! Celebrate your life and your ability to survive the emotional range. If you are going to feel the agony let yourself balance by feeling the ecstasy also.

When you live fearlessly ANYTHING is possible! We often put off making certain decisions because we can’t predict the outcome. I know I have been doing this for a few years. It’s not so much the indecision that I couldn’t live with – it’s living with the ordinary…accepting a part of my life that wasn’t my ideal or my truth.

But no more! I want to live fearlessly and with passion in every single aspect of my life. We all deserve to live this way. My intuition tells me I am making much better decisions now. 

I almost cannot even explain how exciting the future suddenly looks. It is full of everything I ever wanted. I just needed to step out of my fear of what might happen and make the decision. At the same time I am so grateful for this experience – to learn this now. I know that for the rest of my life I can live how I have dreamed of. It takes courage, hope, passion, laughter, love, support, dreams and a couple of glasses of wine every now and again!

Life doesn’t happen to you! Yet many people believe this. We actually create everything in our life, even the things we don’t like. Sometimes it is easier to stick with what you know, even when you know it doesn’t work. Then you don’t have to take any risks.

There are times when we say “I can’t believe this happened to me”. Guess what? It didn’t happen to you. And if you want to believe that, you will feel very disempowered and out of control of your life.

We create experiences that help us to learn. Every single thing we do is a learning opportunity – why did I make that decision, what could I have done differently to change the outcome, why does that hurt me so, is this really how I want to be etc.

When we believe something ‘happened’ to us it leaves us in a place of inaction and often pain. When we are prepared to take responsiblity and see how and why we create our lives we gain greater insight into ourselves and we have more choices. 

 So next time you find yourself saying “I can’t believe this happened to me” take a step back and see if you can see how you created it. When you truly connect with this, you will be empowered in your life and prepared to take responsibility for all that you create.

Although many of us already know this we often forget it. Life is easy when everything is going well for us. It is easy to be nice to people, to do things for others, to look at the world as a rosy place.

 But what happens when life is throwing things at us. We lose focus and can’t see the bigger picture. And there are times when live needs to be lived day to day. When someone is very ill time can be counted in days, hours or even minutes.

It is when times are tough that we see our true character. What do you do when things aren’t going your way? Do your world narrow and focus only on yourself? I have found one of the best things to do is to focus on others. See where you can still help people. And above all treat others with respect and love. In the end the traumas of your life will go on and you can be a sad and sorry person…or the traumas go on and you can be a loving and caring person. Either way the traumas will go on.

 So next time you are facing hard times, think about how you want to deal with them. Think about the person you want to be as you go through the hard times. And above all think about the lesson life is giving you – everything is an opportunity. You can be grateful for anything…and I mean anything!

Well, those of you who subscribe will notice it has been a while since I have written. My poor husband has been quick sick and in hospital last week which has brought with it a new set of challenges. He is now home and the good news is that he will be fine with some further treatment!

 Meanwhile, I have had the wonderful experience of a group of friends rallying around me offering whatever support I may need. Some have cooked meals for us, others have offered to help with the children and others have helped with the driving (his hospital is a 2 hour drive away). Even just knowing that people are there to help has been helpful. I mentioned Random Acts of Kindness not so long ago – well I feel truly blessed to be on the receiving end of these at this time.

One thing that really struck me during this time was that I could spend a lot of my time worrying about what was going to happen. I really got a taste of what Living in the Now means. Every time I noticed myself worrying about what might or might not happen I brought myself back to the present. In doing so I was truly able to enjoy myself – spending time with the kids, talking with others and whatever else I did.

I also practised lots of self care and only did what I felt like doing during this time…without any of the guilty feelings I may have had in the past. In letting go, I also let go of any expectations (including writing in my blog!). So what could have been a very stressful time was actually OK. And to those beautiful friends who have helped and still help me, I am VERY grateful to have you in my life.

This week has seen me return to yoga. For some time now I have wanted to bring this back into my life. With three young children, a business to run, school duties etc I find time slips away and I still haven’t done any yoga.

So this has me thinking. I have always thought that we must do yoga for at least 1 – 1 1/2 hours (and preferably daily) for it to be beneficial. This is precisely the thing that kep me away, because I couldn’t find 1-1 1/2 hours each day. This thought was based on things I have been told by others who practice yoga (especially those without children).

This week in my local library I discovered a DVD that provides half hour sessions, so I thought I would give it a go. Well, I TOTALLY love it. I get what I need out of it and what’s more I do find 1/2 hour every day to practise.

I don’t know whether I am doing it ‘enough’ and yes it probably would be fantastic for me to do it for 1-1 1/2 hours every day…but right now I choose not dedicate that amount of time to it. Instead I have found a way that works for me and I am happier, I look forward to it every day and I still have time to do all the ‘mummy’ things I want to do. And I notice my body is loosening up every day :).

Looking back I notice that it was my thinking of what yoga ‘should’ be that was stopping me from doing any at all. Once I changed my thinking and realised that it can be whatever I make it…because after all it is my life…it became very easy to incorporate daily.

I notice this with many of my clients – the thing stopping them is not always what it seems. Once we get in touch with our thinking around a situation new possibilities open up. I invite you to take a look at one thing in your life you have been wanting to do. Take some quiet moments to reflect and discover what it is that is really stopping you.

Along with the new website I have been working on some great new workshops especially for mums. As every mum knows the challenges they face are very different to others.

So here is the flyer giving all the details. Right now these are being held in Noosa, QLD, Australia but they will be available in a teleseminer format later this year!

Check it out here…Mum/Life/Health Balance Workshop

Finally – the reason my blog has been less active is because of the development of my bew website. Check it out at www.yourfamilyvision.com

Any feedback is welcome. The website is the next step and it will certainly only improve from here!

Two weeks ago some new friends of mine performed a beautiful act of kindness to someone we knew. Now the person receiving this has by many standards had a hard life. She now dedicates her time, energy and money to looking after her three children to the point of not having any money for herself. Perhaps not so unusual but if you met her you would understand how extraordinary she is given the life she has led.

Anyway, this girl turned 30 the other day. The day passed like most others without too much thought for herself. Well, the two friends decided to spoil her in the best way they could. They took her shopping, bought her some new clothes, took her out for lunch and generally ensured she had a wonderful day.

I saw her at the end of this day that had been about her and the word I used to describe her was “sparkling”. She was excited, happy, bubbling, laughing – it was the best gift they could have given her. And this lasted for days (and may go on for months!) afterwards. Every time she puts on her new clothes she has the memory of that day.

Whilst I love the idea of Randon Acts of Kindness (the idea of showing doing something kind for someone you don’t know), it is equally important to practice deliberate acts of kindess to those you know. If we all did this every now and again the world would be an even more beautiful place than it is today 🙂

And for those of you wondering…my blog will be starting up again more regularly shortly. I have spent the last month working on my new and improved website…more on that later!